Me Time Tag 2018

1. What do you watch or read during your me time? reading clipart

If I am reading something it’s whatever book I am currently reading. If I decide to watch something I usually start with my YouTube videos that I need to catch up on and then I will switch it over to Netflix and watch whatever show I am currently binging. Unless it’s football season…then the answer is always, I repeat always football!

2. What do you wear during your me time?

Whatever makes me comfy! Sometimes some warm pj’s, but usually a pair of shorts and a t-shirt so that I can snuggle up under a nice blanket!

3. What are your favorite me time beauty products?

Occasionally a face mask. Usually the one by Mary Kay, sometimes a sheet mask. It depends on my mood!

 4. Current favorite nail polish…

Hmmm….good question because I change my nail polish every week and I usually don’t wear the same color back to back!

5. What do you eat or drink during Me Time?

starbucks

A hot cup of tea or coffee, sometimes wine 🙂

6. Current favorite candle.

Purple Sands.

7. Do you ever have outdoor me time?

summertime

In the summer all the time! I love laying in the sun with a good book. I could literally spend all day out there!

8. Would you ever go see a movie alone?

Probably not. If I’m going to see a movie I want to experience it with someone.

9. Favorite online shop?

Currently Zulily.

 10. Favorite Me Time music?

Country or whatever my favorite song is at the moment. So right now it would be Out Loud and Satellite by Gabbie Hanna (she’s a youtuber if you don’t know who she is check her out and listen to her music because she is FIRE!)

11. How would you spend a kid free day?

Well I don’t have any kids of my own BUT I am a teacher so my “kid free” days are spend usually thinking about how I can better assist my kiddos.

12. What else do you do during Me Time?

Naps take all the naps!

Me time is so important for your mental and physical health! Here are some things that “me time” can help with…

-Reboots your brain
-Helps you unwind
-Improves your concentration
-Makes us more productive
-Gives your room for self-discovery
-Allows time for deep thinking and reflection
-Aids in problem solving
-Enhances our relationships

Day in and day out we deal with stress between work and home life that occasionally we need some time to unwind and just do what makes us happy.

What is your favorite “me time” activity? Or if you have a blog and want to do this tag please feel free! I would love to read your responses!

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Let’s Do A Recap…

Now I know that my normal posts for Fridays are fitness related, and I had another idea for a blog post but sometimes you just need do what comes to your mind instead. So I want to take this opportunity to sit and just reflect on my life this past year.

I would have to say that the first 6 months of 2017 were a little hit or miss for me. However, I will say that honestly the last 6 months of this year have been the best months I’ve had in years. But we’ll get to that in a minute.

I went into 2017 honestly in a really bad place. So let’s start there. Towards the end of 2016 and the beginning of 2017 I had a lot of personal things going on in my life. Halloween of 2016 my grandma on my moms side passed away. Now without going into too much detail (so please don’t ask because I would rather not say), we were not informed that my grandma had passed away until the day of her funeral…which we were unable to attend. For personal reasons I don’t want to go into the nitty gritty of it all. But what I will say is that my grandma did have Alzheimer’s and the family member that was “taking care of her” we have not spoken to in years. Unfortunately that meant that we were not able to speak to my grandma. My grandma and I were very close. We went shopping together, I would spend the night at her house and we would stay up way too late eating popcorn and copious amounts of junk food and watching Lifetime movies or Food Network. I loved every moment that I got to spend with her. I cherish those memories more than anything in the world. Do I miss her? Of course I do. Every single day. It never gets easier. Do I wish that I would’ve been able to be around her when she was going through such a tough time? I do. That is honestly my biggest regret, but it wasn’t my fault, we tried we really did. I just hope that she knows how much I love her and how much I miss her and that I wish things could’ve been different. I will be honest and tell you that this hit me very hard. I immediately felt my whole world shift and it wasn’t in a good way. I was sad and angry at the world and to be completely honest I felt like I was a different person.

Not too long after my grandma passed away, we found out that one of our really good family friends (I called him Uncle Budd), was diagnosed with cancer. He tried treatment but it just didn’t cut it. He lost his battle with cancer in February of 2017. Uncle Budd and I had a very special relationship and I loved him like he was my real uncle. He was the best Uncle Budd that a girl could ask for and no one can replace him. To make it even worse, his girlfriend was pregnant when we lost him and though we were all very excited for the baby….it was hard to stay excited when the babies dad would never get to meet her.

Fast forward a little bit to March, Uncle Budd’s girlfriend is about a month away from having her baby girl, we are all so excited and getting things ready for the baby shower. Then she lost the baby. The sadness and the anger that I felt when I found out….was unmeasurable. Between losing my grandma and then Uncle Budd…now the baby…I was done. I was angry at the world and I was angry at God….yupp I said it. I was angry at God. I had 3 very important people in my life taken away from my in a very short period of time….I didn’t know how else to feel.

My anger didn’t last very long, but I will say that the sadness lingered for a very long time. It was starting to make other areas of my life a little less enjoyable. So much to the point that my health and fitness were suffering.

I know I’ve talked about this before but guys I can promise you that without The Shift Shop, I would not be in the healthy headspace that I am right now. I’ve told my parents this a few times, but if I hadn’t done the Shift Shop program when I did…if Danielle hadn’t mentioned it to me when she did, I was going to need therapy. That’s how bad it was. I was ready to go and talk to someone just to feel better because I didn’t know how to handle what I was feeling. But this program…they’re not joking when they say that it gives you both a physical and a mental shift because it did! You can see my full transformation and hear more about the program in my blog post about it… 42 days, 6 weeks, 1 program)

After I completed the program I was a completely different person…I was me again! Did I still feel sad sometimes? Yeah I sure did, but I could handle it a little bit better. I wasn’t letting it consume me anymore. That was a huge thing for me and I am forever thankful for that program.

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Shortly after I completed that program this amazing guy came into my life…or should I say he came back into my life. I’ve known this guy since we were 5 years old. We went to elementary, middle and high school together. I can honestly say that receiving that Facebook message from him and answering it was the best thing that has happened to me this year. I have loved getting to know him better and spending time with him and I am so glad that I get to call him my boyfriend. The time that has passed since he has come into my life has went by so quickly let so slow all at the same time and for the first time in a long time I feel genuinely happy. He is beyond the perfect boyfriend and I wouldn’t trade him for the world. I can’t wait to see what 2018 has in store for us!

Overall even though there were mostly crappy times in 2017…I would have to say that 2017 was my year. It was a year or learning and a year of growth and through those lessens learned and the growing I was able to open my heart and God finally answered a prayer that I have been praying for a few years now. He brought a guy into my life who loves me for who I really am and doesn’t make me feel afraid to be authentically me. He is nothing but supportive of everything that I do and so very encouraging and motivating. He genuinely cares about me and the things that I do day in and day out, and I couldn’t ask for better. So God, thank you for answering that prayer and bringing me the best boyfriend a girl could ask for!

Okay, okay moving on, so like I said even though you’re probably looking at everything that happened in 2017 and thinking that it wasn’t a good year, I think it was. Why? Because I am choosing to focus on the positive things that happened in my life this year, instead of just the negative ones.

I can’t wait to see what 2018 has in store for me! Here’s to another great year! I’ll talk to you next year loves!

 

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The Time I Started A Blog…

 

Where do I even begin??

Well I am so excited to be launching my blog! This is something that I’ve wanted to do for a while now but I was afraid that no one would read it or no one would care about the things that I wanted to write about. But guess what, this girl is tired of not doing things because she’s afraid of what people will think!

Think about it, if we all decided that we weren’t going to do something because we were afraid of what other people would think, how many things would you have missed out on in life?? If I thought that way every single time that I wanted to do something, I wouldn’t have gone to college and changed my major 3 times. I wouldn’t have become a fitness instructor. The opportunities that I would’ve missed out on are endless, but I made the choice to take the leap, and now I’m doing the same with this blog.

We’ve established why I’m here…let’s talk about how I got here and let me help you to know me a little better.

For those of you that don’t already know, my name is Shelby. I’m 25 years young. I was born and raised in Columbus, Ohio (Go Bucks!), where I still currently live. I grew up going to private Catholic schools my whole life and I loved every minute of it. The memories that were made those 13 years of my life were definitely some of the best.

After graduating high school I attended Ohio Dominican University (Go Panthers!!). When I got accepted into ODU I knew it was the perfect fit for me, it was a small campus that had that feeling of “home” and “family” which reminded me a lot of my high school. I went in as a pre-nursing major, after seeing many family members ill and seeing how some nurses and doctors treat their patients (bedside manner is important guys…), I felt that it was my duty to become a nurse and change the way patients were being treated. Well let me just tell you that didn’t last long. It wasn’t that I couldn’t handle the work load, trust me I love science. I am the type of person that cannot physically, mentally or emotionally separate herself from her work. I get attached to people easily and letting go is never easy for me. Being part of the pre-nursing program we had to have a certain number of volunteer hours at the nursing home on campus. I greatly enjoyed going and visiting with the sisters and brothers; hearing their stories and just chatting. But when you get particularly attached to one sister, as I did, and she passes away…I couldn’t handle it. Cue the first change of my major! I knew that I still wanted to do something in the science field so that was a start. My next option was to work with animals, not a vet or anything like that; I considered working in a zoo. But after about a year I began to realize that this wasn’t my passion. Although working with animals seemed like so much fun, it wasn’t something I saw myself doing for the rest of my life. After several meetings with my guidance counselor and academic advisor (who by the way was a rock star for putting up with me for 5 years…shout out to you Dr. T, I know I was a pain sometimes!), I came to the conclusion that I should’ve come to my first year at ODU. I wanted to be a teacher! A science teacher to be exact. So I changed my major for the third and final time, adding one more year to my time at ODU, which stressed me out a little bit. I wanted to be graduating with the rest of my class. But I took a deep breath and realized that if I wanted to be happy with my career, this was how I had to do it. Adding this extra year gave me the opportunity to not only pursue a degree in a career that I love, but it gave me the opportunity to meet some amazing people that I wouldn’t have otherwise met.

When people tell you that high school is the best and worst 4 years of your life….they’re not wrong…but they’re also not 100% accurate. Don’t get me wrong high school was both amazing and horrible at the same time, but nothing compares to college. The ups and downs that you go through…there’s no preparing for that. The number of all-nighters that I pulled writing a paper or studying for an exam, the number of tears shed when projects didn’t turn out the way they were supposed to, or machines were down when we had to do our Organic Chemistry Unknowns….I still have nightmares about that! I’m kidding, I don’t actually have nightmares about Organic Chemistry but I remember that night and that lab like it happened just yesterday. But I wouldn’t change any of it for the world. Why? Because it got me to where I am today, and I can honestly say that I love where I’m standing.

There is so much more that I could tell you in this post about how college changed me…but I’ll save that for another day!

Xo’s Shelby